Either it is our family, our friends, or even our loved ones, they somehow might experience difficulty that affecting their mental health state. And at some point, we feel that it is our responsible to get rid of their problems, to make them happy again, thus, we tend to give a few inappropriate advices and response to them. But there are a few words that might be not suitable to be spoken, as our loved ones are battling with their emotions and their depression state. And it is important for us, to be aware and avoid saying these things because it might affect them even more.
Instead of saying these kind of words, the MOST IMPORTANT things that you have to do is to ACKNOWLEDGE THEIR FEELINGS and accept what they are expressing to you, do not try to put up an excuse and blaming themselves for being depressed. Instead acknowledge it by saying that you are listening and you care about them, make them feel heard and accepted.
Giving orders like, "smile more, be happy, pray more", isn't going to solve their problems, Just because you think that is the best solution, doesn't mean that it will work on everyone else. Most of the time, people with depression already aware and knew about all of those things, but they just don't feel like it, or maybe they needed more time to do it. Or maybe, they just want someone to be there and help them step by step.
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